About This Site

When I filed for divorce in 2016, I was raising two children, working full-time, and recovering from years of abuse by my partner. The divorce process itself became another battleground—emotionally, financially, and mentally. Despite trying mediation and collaborative law, my ex-partner refused to cooperate, turning what should have been a resolution process into a prolonged and exhausting fight.

Even with mediators and lawyers involved, I often felt unheard. I was given advice that didn't align with what I knew was best for my children and me. When something didn't feel right, I researched on my own. Time and again, I found legal options and strategies that were never presented to me.

At one point, a lawyer told me I would "look like an idiot" if I asked a judge for something I believed was critical to my children's and my own well-being. I trusted my instincts, dismissed that lawyer, did the research, and asked the judge directly. The judge ruled in my favour.

That moment changed everything.

I learned that self-advocacy is exhausting—but essential. Information is power, especially when you are navigating a high-conflict divorce after abuse. The more I learned, the better decisions I made, the lower my costs became, and the more protected my children were.

I created this site to share the research, resources, and hard-earned knowledge I used so that others don't have to learn everything the hardest way possible. I hope that this information helps make your journey less traumatic and less daunting—and that you walk away knowing you did not sacrifice yourself or your children because you didn't know there were other options.